About Me

I am highly motivated and driven person. I am the type of person who sees what he wants and I go get it which sometimes gets me in trouble but other times is very rewarding. I am an aspiring Author, and I have book that is going to be released this fall which is soo exciting for me, and I will keep you all posted on it. I am a workaholic six to nine months out of the year then I tend to chill for a few months before starting something new lol. I LOVE SPENDING TIME W/ FAMILY AND FRIENDS, OUTDOOR ACTIVITIES, SPORTS, WATCHING MOVIES, READING AT BARNES AND NOBLE. I believe all things are possible if you believe in it hard enough and work for it till you get it. I love to travel. I have been to the bahamas (Atlantis resort is awesome), Italy (Milan), Dominican Republic, and throughout the East coast and Texas. My Favorite place is Disneyworld I am still a kid at heart and I just like to have fun but dont laugh at me too much because I'd have to hurt ya.

Monday, February 15, 2010

Life:Relationships- Friends, Family, and Finances

Have you ever wondered why some people seem to get along with everyone and they also seem to have great amounts of personal & financial success? They never seem to have bad days and they always seem to have a smile on their face. You might be saying to yourself, well that is just not the case with me because I have tons of up and down moments! You might say to yourself that you try to be nice to everyone you meet, but it just seems that you have a character flaw in your personality. You might even feel that you can not even have a sense a balance with those closest to you such as your friends and family. First it is understandable that you have up and down moments with family and friends, and maybe it is your personality maybe it is not, but back to the point I am trying to make here.

There is a key or principle to true personal and financial success that most people do not know about and that is the key of being "Friendly!" You might be saying, I am friendly but it is hard when the people you meet are not friendly back!. Well as true as that may be the key here is to know that you have to cultivate being friendly for your benefit more then theirs. The reason being is that it is very hard to be truly successful without incorporating people in some form or fashion. Whether it is from the perspective of being a great doctor or an author, or any other business/profession that you choose...you will be trying to get people to enjoy the process of interacting with you for a service that you render to them.

That way they will not mind paying you whatever your price is because they have a "relationship of trust" with you. So the best way to ensure success is to cultivate being friendly People pay and associate with people they relate to and who they feel that they can communicate with and truly understand them. People in their core want relationships and want to feel comfortable with the person they do business with whether it is buying your book or being treated by you. So developing the ability to be friendly is a vital character trait necessary for great achievement!

That being said, you do not have to commit all your energy or time in this function. You must be balanced and dont be a push over. Life is a bank account..if you make deposits expect to be able to make withdrawals....if you consistently make a deposit of friendship into people or serving them and they take, take, take, and never build you up then that is not a wise investment. Put them in the category of acquaintance because they might can contribute to a mutual beneficial relationship or transaction down the road but at this stage keep them at arms length distance.

You have to realize that you are in a process and that process takes time and for the driven person like us...most people will just not get you or understand your mindset. This does not give you the right to be mean it just gives you proper perspective on what each persons role is within your circle of relationships. lonely times will come but it is much like your schooling...their is a time for learning and then a time for putting into practice what you have learned.

So where does that leave you emotionally?? Well that is where being friendly, even though you might be alone, is your greatest asset. Back to the bank account...when you are nice and cultivate, genuine care and love for each other without putting a demand on a return from the individual, you are then making a deposit in your soul of love and good feelings. That is why people enjoy buying presents during the holidays, because it puts a good feeling in their heart for no other reason than doing something good for someone else that you hope makes them happy! :)

Again this takes time if it is not your nature to be nice as a habit or friendly as a habit but you will eventually be at a point where you will have developed emotional self control. It is not that you do not need other people or even want other people in your life but they will no longer have the power to dictate your emotional condition. I am confident you will achieve all you desire to accomplish because I sense the hunger within and God never puts a desire for a meal without providing the opportunity to eat! I can go on and on about this subject, but the main point I want you to understand is that cultivating your ability to be friendly and to build real relationships will bring more personal and financial wealth then you ever thought possible!!! Thanks again so much and I wish you the best in all you do!! :)

"I am persuaded that you can only go as far as the Wisdom, Knowledge, and Understanding that you Possess!!-Tomorrow's Dreams are accomplished by Today's Faith & Actions!!!"-Quote by Nick Ruiz




1 comment:

  1. Hey Nick,

    I think you bring up a great point, one of the keys to success is friendliness. I really enjoyed reading your post!

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